Find Out What It Takes To Build True Intimacy


Thank you for visiting my Blog to read today’s post about finding out what it takes to build true intimacy. Thousands of authors have pontificated over this topic for a price that could easily rid you of the twenty-dollar bill stashed in the secret hiding place of your wallet for “emergencies”. 

The answer to the question is plain, simple, and it’s FREE. Transparency. Yep, that one word sums up how to build true intimacy. Psalm 32:2 points to interpersonal transparency as a source of happiness. We read, “Blessed (happy) is the man whose sin the LORD does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit.”

Secrets are a sign that something is wrong. When we need to hide a twenty, hide a relationship, hide a habit, hide anything, we should feel a check in our Spirit. Transparency with God (and others) leads us to confess our sin and ask for forgiveness, which works toward ridding us of the spirit of deceit. When the conscious is clean, and we are right with God and those around us, there is nothing to hide. Continue reading

Button Pushing


To many the term button pushing holds a negative connation. What if we put a spin on it and considered it in a more positive light? Imagine for a moment the “button” being pushed read: “Work-in-Progress.” Would we be more apt to look at “our stuff” without being defensive?

How often have you said or heard someone say, “I’ve got a lot of work to do in that area”. Most of us are willing to acknowledge there’s a need to work on ourselves, and the Bible speaks on this subject:

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. Colossians 3:5-10 

Consider these scenarios.

The call to work sounds; your spouse keeps interrupting you during a volatile discussion over money (for the sake of this scenario I’ve chosen money, but the topic could be anything). Your level of frustration continues to rise. In the heat of the moment you want to lash out and make your point (at any cost). Do you clock-in for work and ask God to reveal why you are tempted to allow your flesh to rule? Or, do you tear up the timecard and tell your spouse off?

The call to work sounds; you want something, which is in opposition to what God wants. Do you reason conviction away to gratify the flesh? Announcing, “I’m on-vacation. I’ve earned the right to relax with this sin for a while.” Or do you swipe your time card and ask God to give you an honest recognition of your sin, which can bring about an attitude of repentance and a willingness to go in the right direction?

The work call sounds again; this time…you know, that you know, you’re right and you want to hammer it home. After all, the person is going to benefit from your wisdom. In fact, if they weren’t so prideful they would realize they have two ears and one mouth for a reason (of course you already understand this and given an opportunity would be happy to expound on the subject). What do you do when they don’t “get-it” and seemingly choose to stay “stuck”? Do you enter your pin number and hand stamp in anyway, trusting God’s the Boss, not you?

Our lives can be different if we do it different. Pray to receive God’s transforming power and never miss another day of work on yourself.