I have been writing for most of my life. The road has had its ups and downs, but God has been my teacher and inspiration for every manuscript written since I began my walk with Him. The Lord has been my mentor, writing professor, and storyline inspiration. Throughout the journey my husband and others have encouraged me to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
I am excited to share on August 13th, 2013 I signed a publishing contract with Chalfont House/HopeSprings Books for my first novel Marriage Takes Three.
I will post future announcements on the release date and where you will be able to purchase my book.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
I need to preface this post with a confession: I am a go-go-go person. Anyone who’s known me for short period of time knows I slow down just long enough to smell the roses… before deciding to pick them…and arrange them in a vase…take them to a friend… whose house I will offer to clean…while preparing dinner. : )
“I will get your attention.” God spoke those words to my heart in 2009 and I will never forget them.
“No sooner met but they looked; no sooner looked but they loved; no sooner loved but they sighed; no sooner sighed but they asked one another the reason; no sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy; and in these degrees have they made a pair of stairs to marriage…” ~ William Shakespeare
Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love
Edmund O’Neill (b. 1929)
Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.
Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent or child.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.
When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.
“Sweetie, did you take out the trash? You know tomorrow is trash day.”
“No, but I will.”
“I’ll take it out when a commercial comes on. Okay!”
(Insert clenched jaws—both characters)
“Honey, did you make that appointment?”
“No, but I will.”
“First thing Monday morning. Okay!”
(Insert eyes rolling—both characters.)
“Darling, I thought you said you were going to wash the car today.”
“No, I said I’d wash it on the weekend—the weekend’s not over.”
“But when over the weekend?”
“I said I’ll do it—I’ll do it. Okay!”
(Insert exasperated sighs.)
“Sweetie, I’ve had a long day. Is dinner ready?”
“No, but I’ll throw something together in a minute.”
“But when? I’m hungry now.
“Soon. By the way, I’ve had a long day, too. Okay!”
(Insert furrowed brows—both characters.)
“Honey, are you ready?”
“No, but I’ll be ready quicker—if you stop asking me, ‘Are you ready?’
“Fine. But when do you think you might be ready?”
“Are you trying to make me mad? I’ll be ready when I’m ready. Okay!”
(Insert foot tapping—both characters.)
“Darling, I don’t think you should eat another piece of cake. What do you think?”
“No, I probably shouldn’t; however, do you think you should monitor what I eat?”
“No, but when you ask me, ‘do I look fat in these jeans?’ What am I supposed to say?”
“You’re supposed to… I don’t know what you’re supposed to say. Okay!”
(Insert exasperated sighs—both characters.)
Gal 6:7 7Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. (KJV)
Question for you… Are you sick and tired of going around the same emotional mountain? Do you long for a different outcome? Insanity is doing the same thing the same way, but expecting a different result.
Marriage is more about giving than receiving. Seek to show tenderness rather than demanding. Love realistically. Jesus did not have any illusions as to who we were… He knew our faults and loved us in spite of them. He did not wait until we attained some standard. He loved us as we were and sought to move us forward. In the same way, a spouse is to love their spouse for who they are. Pray with and for your spouse about the godly changes you would like to see in your marriage. In the meantime, talk about your spouse’s good points to others. When an issue does arise, share your feelings without attacking (this makes a person defensive and may cause withdrawal). Turn to each other for help, which is better than attacking one another. Don’t replay failures. No one wants to hear about the mistakes they’ve made over-and-over; instead, underscore what was done well rather than pointing out what was done poorly. Let your spouse know when he/she is doing something right.
Oneness in marriage means caring for your spouse as you care for yourself. We are to love our spouse like we love our own body. As we feed and care for our body so we should give attention to taking care of our spouse. My relationship with my spouse affects my spiritual life. When I am not feeding my marriage, my spiritual life lacks nourishment. My husband recognizes the importance of a healthy marriage (not perfect, but healthy). He readily listens to people talk about their great faith, but what he hungers to know is: how do they treat their spouse? He knows that their actions are a better indication of their faith than their words. He’s right. I’m blessed to be married to him (waving at my loving and supportive husband Ed Hamlin).
Something to chew on. If you prayerfully treat your spouse with love and respect you will get different results. If you show the love of Christ to your spouse you can move mountains; mountains that are often formed out of expectations grounded in selfish needs. Psalm 51 1Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy loving kindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions… Prayed with a sincere heart and a desire for the Lord to show you how to love and respect your spouse is honoring not only to God, but also to your spouse.