But a man (spouse) who com­mits adul­tery lacks judg­ment; who­ever does so destroys him­self (herself).

Proverbs 5:32 

In my mind cheat­ing isn’t lim­ited to phys­i­cal infidelity.

Song of Solomon 2:15, Catch for us the foxes, the lit­tle foxes that ruin the vine­yards, our vine­yards that are in bloom. We har­vest what we plant in our mar­riage, or as the Bible says in Gala­tians 6:7–8, Do not be deceived: God can­not be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Who­ever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruc­tion; who­ever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eter­nal life.

If we spend our days grum­bling about our spouse and how he or she needs to change, can we not expect to have our spouse grum­ble about what needs to change in us? When we escape the hurt from a lack of affec­tion and inti­macy in our mar­riage by chat­ting with our girl­friends, which often includes bad-mouthing our spouse, should we not expect our hus­bands to “vent” in the same way with “the boys”? Con­tinue read­ing →