When you’re in a wonderful new relationship and blissfully dating, everything’s embraced with goo-goo eyes and cooing. After marriage and years down the line, it may become a different experience. Yes, you (hopefully) still love your spouse, but often feel like the romance has been delegated to “special occasions”. The biblical truth is, the romance is there and waiting to be rekindled. Here are some biblical ways to reignite the passion in your marriage:
1. Loving our spouse –There is freedom in loving your spouse without the expectations the world places on you. The believer must kill self-centeredness and radically transform their life; shifting the focus from ourselves to God and in doing so we will aspire to love others as Christ does, unconditionally. This does not mean merely to practice an ascetic self-discipline. It is a very strong word, meaning, “to kill”. Colossians 3:5 says we are to “mortify therefore (our) members, which are on the earth” (KJV).
2. Taking care of yourself — Getting fit will do wonders for your energy levels while elevating your mood. Go for a daily walk, join a gym, go cycling, jogging, hiking, or swimming. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reads: What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (KJV)
3. How we see our spouse — Our prayer needs to be… “Lord, please let me see the one You have chosen for me with Your eyes and not mine; so that I may see her beauty or his handsomeness as You do”. 1 Peter 3:4 reads: Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. (KJV)
4. Dating our spouse – Take time out from your busy schedules for a date day/night and give that time as much respect as you would any other important commitment. Some suggestions: Each of you write two ideas on a scrap of paper, fold and drop into a hat (figuratively speaking), then choose (ladies first, lol, my bias is showing) one suggestion at a time and designate a day/night per week to enjoy the time together over the next month. Ephesians 5:15-16 reads: See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. (KJV)
5. Showing your spouse you care – Practice devoting more time to your partner. Do things for each other, whether it’s giving a massage after a tiring day, doing the laundry, cooking dinner, or simply allowing your spouse a half-hour to catch his/her breath before overloading him/her with the day’s events. 1 Corinthians 13:1 reads: Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. (KJV)
6. This book is one source for learning how to love your spouse. The 5 Love Languages – The Secret To Love That Lasts, by Gary Chapman.
7. “Me” time – It’s great to spend quality time together but it’s not good to do it all the time. Spend some “me” time apart – take up a hobby, or hang out with friends. Mathew 6:6 reads: But you, when you pray, enter into your closet, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father which is in secret; and your Father which sees in secret shall reward you openly. (KJV)
8. Pray for one another – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 reads: Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
9. A source for learning how to better equip you as a praying wife. The Power of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian.
10. A source for learning how to better equip you as a praying husband. The Power Of A Praying Husband by Stormie Omartian.