When you’re in a won­der­ful new rela­tion­ship and bliss­fully dat­ing, everything’s embraced with goo-goo eyes and coo­ing. After mar­riage and years down the line, it may become a dif­fer­ent expe­ri­ence. Yes, you (hope­fully) still love your spouse, but often feel like the romance has been del­e­gated to “spe­cial occa­sions”. The bib­li­cal truth is, the romance is there and wait­ing to be rekin­dled. Here are some bib­li­cal ways to reignite the pas­sion in your marriage: 

1.      Lov­ing our spouse –There is free­dom in lov­ing your spouse with­out the expec­ta­tions the world places on you. The believer must kill self-centeredness and rad­i­cally trans­form their life; shift­ing the focus from our­selves to God and in doing so we will aspire to love oth­ers as Christ does, uncon­di­tion­ally. This does not mean merely to prac­tice an ascetic self-discipline. It is a very strong word, mean­ing, “to kill”. Colos­sians 3:5 says we are to “mor­tify there­fore (our) mem­bers, which are on the earth” (KJV).

 2.      Tak­ing care of your­self — Get­ting fit will do won­ders for your energy lev­els while ele­vat­ing your mood. Go for a daily walk, join a gym, go cycling, jog­ging, hik­ing, or swim­ming. 1 Corinthi­ans 6:19–20 reads: What? Know ye not that your body is the tem­ple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: there­fore glo­rify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (KJV)

3.      How we see our spouse — Our prayer needs to be… “Lord, please let me see the one You have cho­sen for me with Your eyes and not mine; so that I may see her beauty or his hand­some­ness as You do”. 1 Peter 3:4 reads: Whose adorn­ing let it not be that out­ward adorn­ing of plait­ing the hair, and of wear­ing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hid­den man of the heart, in that which is not cor­rupt­ible, even the orna­ment of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. (KJV)

4.      Dat­ing our spouse – Take time out from your busy sched­ules for a date day/night and give that time as much respect as you would any other impor­tant com­mit­ment. Some sug­ges­tions: Each of you write two ideas on a scrap of paper, fold and drop into a hat (fig­u­ra­tively speak­ing), then choose (ladies first, lol, my bias is show­ing) one sug­ges­tion at a time and des­ig­nate a day/night per week to enjoy the time together over the next month. Eph­esians 5:15–16 reads: See then that ye walk cir­cum­spectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeem­ing the time, because the days are evil. (KJV)

5.      Show­ing your spouse you care – Prac­tice devot­ing more time to your part­ner. Do things for each other, whether it’s giv­ing a mas­sage after a tir­ing day, doing the laun­dry, cook­ing din­ner, or sim­ply allow­ing your spouse a half-hour to catch his/her breath before over­load­ing him/her with the day’s events. 1 Corinthi­ans 13:1 reads: Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not char­ity, I am become as sound­ing brass, or a tin­kling cym­bal. (KJV)

6.      This book is one source for learn­ing how to love your spouse. The 5 Love Lan­guages – The Secret To Love That Lasts, by Gary Chapman.

7.      “Me” time – It’s great to spend qual­ity time together but it’s not good to do it all the time. Spend some “me” time apart – take up a hobby, or hang out with friends. Mathew 6:6 reads: But you, when you pray, enter into your closet, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father which is in secret; and your Father which sees in secret shall reward you openly. (KJV)

8.      Pray for one another – Eccle­si­astes 4:9–12 reads: Two are bet­ter than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fel­low: but woe to him that is alone when he fal­l­eth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one pre­vail against him, two shall with­stand him; and a three­fold cord is not quickly bro­ken.

9.      A source for learn­ing how to bet­ter equip you as a pray­ing wife. The Power of A Pray­ing Wife by Stormie Omartian.

10.   A source for learn­ing how to bet­ter equip you as a pray­ing hus­band. The Power Of A Pray­ing Hus­band by Stormie Omartian.

            God bless,

            Gh ;)

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